We all get it. You work 8-12 hours a day (sometimes longer) and you’re tired. It becomes easy to get into the mindset that we’re deserving of what we want. Lazy days, unhealthy (but tasty) meals, alcohol consumption or any other mood-altering chemicals for that matter. For myself, I find that this kind of “deserving” attitude can be very dangerous. The fact is, we typically look to reward ourselves in ways that actually hinder our progress as high functioning members of society.
Now, if becoming a better version of yourself doesn’t sound appealing to you….go ahead and quit reading. For the rest of us, let’s dive into a word that doesn’t get the credit it deserves…. SACRIFICE. We all sacrifice something in one way or another each day….
We sacrifice our time, our health, and our personal relationships….for what? For work? For more screen-time? For instant gratification?
If we sacrifice anything, we should sacrifice indulgence. We should sacrifice, self-righteous behavior and the feeling that we deserve our vices.
I’ve always operated best under the idea that any selfish ventures I partake in must be earned… and that free-will means I am in control of my own actions. From how I treat people... all the way to what foods I put into my body. I decide. Not my parents or my boss at work, not my kids and not the asshole that cut me off in traffic. Me.
Wow… what a revelation. I actually have the ability to control my urges, my thoughts, my actions. Of course, it’s easy to say I’m in control...but when that moment comes to decide good vs bad, left vs right… your true priorities in life will be revealed… and the clock is ticking. Can I trick myself into making the right decisions? Can I set myself up for success by doing just ONE thing better in my life?
But life is short. If I die tomorrow, I SHOULD want to indulge in all I can today, right? Sure, but there’s a good chance you won’t die tomorrow… or next week, or month, or year. The result of living life in this mindset will lead you to only poor health, resentment, and an early death (if you’re lucky).
Nobody is going to have an easy second-half of existence. It’s important that we sacrifice our day to day excuses, vices, and comfort pillows we lean on in order to build a more quality life for ourselves…..and if not for ourselves…then do it for the people you love.
Go out there and earn it…..you may find the things you used to lean on… didn’t have the power you thought it had.
Colin has been a very curious learner since his journey began with Graves Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. He will always ask the right questions and is ready to deliver the right answers. Watching his strategies develop and his ability to deal with adversity has been very rewarding for our coaches. Sign your child up for jiu-jitsu, it might be the best decision you make for them. Find our school in Lebanon, Tennessee located on the top floor of Dube Orthopedics.
Jeff Spain Jr
Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Brown Belt