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Tonight was one of those shining moments for me as a father and training partner. Hunter, my 18 year old son, competed at the New Breed Jiu Jitsu tournament in Nashville today. He lost both his no gi matches and went 1-1 in the gi. These results were not what he wanted. He’s been training more than anyone at the gym. He puts in a ton of hard work and obviously expects to perform accordingly. Sometimes though, things just don’t click. You’re off. Sometimes the other guy is just better. There are literally millions of variables in combat sports that can and will have an effect on the outcome. We might call these excuses and none of us want to make those, but these variables have a way of making themselves very apparent when we lose.
Everyone that has been training Jiu Jitsu has at least heard about the dangers of our ego. We’re constantly told that we need to leave our egos at the door. As much as this is true, it’s also true that it’s our egos that get us involved in something like Jiu Jitsu in the first place. So it’s really not about leaving our egos behind us as much as it is about learning how to channel them. Hunter’s ego/competitive edge/drive is not only what fuels him to get better. It’s also the thing that makes it difficult to lose. It’s the thing that makes it difficult for of all of us if anyone from our school loses. This is where my being proud as a father and training partner comes into play. Hunter took his losses roughly. He felt he should’ve won. He thought he should’ve done better. We all did. That’s ego. Then, after an hour or so, he just wanted to get back to training. He just wanted to get better. We all did. That’s also ego.
As much as we look at the competitive sides of ourselves and try to keep said side in check, we should also realize that it’s that very competitive side that keeps us coming back. Egos are like assortments of very specific tools. Jiu Jitsu can show us which job these tools are designed to do. It’s not an easy process to hammer a nail with a screwdriver or to loosen a bolt with a hammer. And that’s what we’re here to learn. My son and training partner is helping us all learn this. That’s why I’m proud. See you on the mats!
- Roy Silvers (Blue)
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There were so many things about our last class that validate just how powerful the Jiu Jitsu lifestyle really is. I personally don’t think a person that shows up and immerses themselves in this art could successfully avoid all the life changing epiphanies if they tried.
We had an issue with the electricity in our building and Jeff regretfully sent out a text to announce that class was canceled. I called my wife and told her I’d be home early due to the cancellation, but I was still going to go and do some drilling on the dummy. No sooner had I hung up and the text thread started blowing up. The guys were determined to train no matter what. Big James even offered to bring flood lights and extension chords to light the place up. In the end, almost everyone showed up and the power issue got resolved. But that didn’t matter. We would’ve trained in the dark. Once you experience the endorphins, mental clarity, and life rewards you get through Jiu Jitsu, it becomes very difficult to let anything stand in the way of that and the common goal becomes even more clear when obstacles present themselves. Everyone pulls together, shows up, adapts and overcomes. The Jiu Jitsu lifestyle is more than learning a martial art. It’s learning the right way to do life.
Roy Silvers (Blue)
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Allow us to introduce Big James! James is a husband, father, and works as an operations manager. He's competed twice within his 7 months of training and has achieved first place in both tournaments. You can follow his journey and many others here on the Profectus Lebanon YouTube channel. Find us here in Wilson County of Middle Tennesse....an hour outside of Nashville. Make Jiu-Jitsu your martial arts choice!
If you’re receptive to it, the amount of “AHA!” moments are so available while training Jiu Jitsu that class can be more like taking dictation than training. It’s gotten to the point for me personally that I don’t even want to call it Jiu Jitsu. I want to call it “The Land of Epiphanies” or something to that effect. It’s like I’m constantly rebooting my thinking process as a direct result of allowing myself to accept the physical, mental, and philosophical lessons that seem to be difficult to find in other aspects of life.
Recently, I injured my knee during training. The MRI showed that I had a significant tear in my MCL which is the tendon that runs down the inside of the knee. The fix is rest followed by physical therapy. I decided I would return to training with the stipulations that I would go easy, protect the injury, and continue the rehab outside of training. It’s a calculated risk, no doubt. I would not suggest this for anyone else. Do what you think is best.
What I’m learning though is not only how my body works but also my thinking. The first thing I naturally did was slowly explore all the things I could no longer do as a result of trying to avoid certain movements that would harm the knee. A lot of this process is very disappointing and discouraging. It’s extremely difficult to learn that out of the various techniques you’ve been drilling and polishing for months, or even years, that you can no longer do them for an indefinite amount of time. And let’s face it. I’m 42 years old. Healing isn’t the same process it was even ten years ago. There’s no real telling how long this rehab might take.
Within this process of eliminating various movements and techniques, you also have to give up almost any hope of tasting all the little victories available to you in Jiu Jitsu. I’m probably not going to hit my “go to” sweep or submit anyone or even be able to find a perfect reaction during a scramble. The list of what all I can’t do is long and significant. It’s almost crippling, for lack of a better word...BUT, the other part of what we learn by training Jiu Jitsu is to then flip to figuring out what we CAN do. I now have the opportunity to work on so many areas of my “dark side” or the non dominant side of various aspects of my game. I now get to slow my Jiu Jitsu down and focus on even tinier details of things like my grips, frames, and defensive positions.
I wasn’t learning what all I couldn’t do because I was injured. I was learning what all I could do with the rest of my body. This actually becomes an exciting challenge for me now that I know will not only benefit my over all practice, but will also benefit my current training partners and those I’ll train with in the future. I’m looking forward to seeing what all I get to learn. See you on the mats.
Roy Silvers (Blue)
There’s so many interesting observations you can’t help but make when a person gets into their Jiu Jitsu journey. The observations we seem to hear and talk about most are the ones that have to do with our ego and the various ins and outs of dealing with it. But there are many tiny nuances of ourselves that only something as intricate and detailed as Jiu Jitsu can show us.
Inevitably, life will get in the way of training at various points during our journey. You’ll get injured, sick, have a family function, have to work late, etc., etc. Most recently, I had to miss a class because of some family stuff. I didn’t feel guilty for missing since a person always has to put family first, but that didn’t mean I didn’t want to train and get all the good stuff one gets while sweating and trying to strangle other people. Luckily, because of our new “Media Monday” routine where we try to film various parts of our training in an attempt to promote the school and Jiu Jitsu in general, I got to watch some of the class. The catch was that I missed an epic battle between two of my teammates during some situational sparring that ended with one of them coming out on top after a very technical series of positional exchanges, and the entire room went nuts in appreciation of having witnessed something so beautifully difficult. As fortunate as I was to have been able to see the video, I still wasn’t there. I didn’t truly get to share that moment with my fellow savages. I could only watch it from a distance.
This is what I mean by tiny nuances. Once you know what it’s like to train, sweat, experience the highs and lows, victories and defeats, and all the growth of watching your teammates become better at something this complex, you simply can’t imagine missing something so special. This journey is way bigger than just learning a martial art. It’s learning about seeing yourself in other people. It’s learning you. See you on the mats.
Roy Silvers (Blue)
Jeff Spain Jr
Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Brown Belt